I feel like I am not in love with my...?

I feel like I am not in love with my husband anymore. He is not understanding anymore. He does not play with the kids anymore, and does not like talking to me much anymore. While he is at work and calls during break its just "hey how are you how are the kids...good good. Same here. well okay just seeing how you guys are doing." If I talk about my feelings, they are never valid. Its always "i shouldnt feel that way or I am wrong for feeling that way. There is nothing but arguments the little time we have together and if we are not arguing it is ignoring each other completely and staring at the tv. If i have the remote and want to watch something that interest me its always okay lets go to sleep but we could sit there for hours if he has the remote. I don't know. I just dont know My heart just feels so empty and sex..which i never had problems with is now a chore but that is like maybe once or twice every 2-3 weeks. I don't want to lose him but I really don't want to be with him anymore. Its just emptyness. we talked last night and I told him everything that has been bothering me and he did the same and we tried to understand one another and no interruptions when the other was talking but today is just the same way. no change he is still running out of the house and just arguments, or just sadness. my frustration and stress is now affecting my health i just don't know what to do. Any advise. We have two babies at home, and I am really not happy and I tried ignoring which leads to more anxiety attacks. takes away all the energy that the kids deserve to be spent on them. I just don't know what to do anymore. I just feel so empty.